Ephesians 6 :2-4
Many of us may be frustrated with where we are in life. Having a feeling like more is out there, but you just cant seem to attain it. Even more frustrating is that fact that you don't know why. Let me just ask, could it be how your have choosen to treat or respect your parents?
In Ep 6:2-4 It clearly states "Honor your father and mother-which is the first commandment with a promise. So that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."
Okay but wait... if your like me, you asked the question: so that WHAT may go well with me?? Well in Deut 5:16 it answers the question for us. It says "that it may go well with you in the land your God IS GIVING YOU."
See you must understand that everything in your life has happen for a purpose and has served as an agent in shaping and grooming you. God wants you to enter into all the things he has promised to you but he cant until you get certain relationships in your life in order. One importantly, is the relationship with your parents. Note: the verse in Ephesians does NOT say only honor them if there right or only if there not a deadbeat or only if they have been in your life they entire time. No, it says just to honor them, PERIOD. In everything and through everything. It even goes on to tell you how important this particular commandment is by saying its the first to be attached with a promise. And as I have been taught in accordance to listing and order in the bible, when something is listed first, it is in correlation to importance. So this must be a rather important commandment to be the FIRST to have a promise attached!
Many of us have been holding on to grudges, unforgiveness , and anger towards our parents. Maybe because of feelings of abandonment, ridicule, abuse or mistakes they may have made in our upbringing. I say to you if your parents are alive or dead its time to let those things go. Your only hindering yourselves. Its time to be freed from the negative feelings your holding toward your parents. This particular subject is something that I am all to familiar with. For years I had held onto ill feelings toward my biological mother. Whom I was not raised by, and from the time of a child at 8years old have not had a relationship with. There was much unforgiveness inside of me towards her. I didn't understand how a mother would not try to build a relationship with her child and just let years pass with nothing! Not a happy birthday, no I love you or in the least reach out to contact me. This burden I carried and suppressed for 18years, which had an effect on me emotionally when it came to feeling of acceptance. For years there was always a feeling of neglect, rejection and just the mindset and thought that I would never going to be good enough for anyone. And I carried that same lie and thought into other relationships and situations in my life ,which birthed into other avenues of depression and low self esteem. It was like a cancer and was a hindrance in my personal growth spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Im now 27 years old and im proud to say that this year because of God I have been able to be freed from the heavy unforgiveness, grudges and lies I was holding on to for so long. Now I am on a road to restoration between my mother and I, and you can do the same!!!
You may ask, how do I do that? Where do I even start? From personal experience you must first want to deal with the issues and not suppress them. Denial is not just a river in Egypt! Lol. Then you go to the Father and take all that baggage(your thoughts, feelings etc) with you and simply RELEASE them to him. Ask him to forgive you for holding on to those ill feelings, ask him to fill any void in you from those things. Then you must finally forgive them that hurt or offended you. But lastly, you MUST forgive yourself for believing the lies and feelings you held on to. Once you do that you will free yourself and open yourself up to instruction by the Holy Spirit on how to move forward from that point.
See you must remember that everything in your life works together for your good. (Romans8:28). Even the things that have hurt us or that we may not understand they are still working for our good! God desires for you to be free and walk into your promised land of opportunities and dreams beyond what you can imagine, but because he is not a man that he should lie, he requires you get some things in order first. The amazing part is you can start today...be blessed!
In Ep 6:2-4 It clearly states "Honor your father and mother-which is the first commandment with a promise. So that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."
Okay but wait... if your like me, you asked the question: so that WHAT may go well with me?? Well in Deut 5:16 it answers the question for us. It says "that it may go well with you in the land your God IS GIVING YOU."
See you must understand that everything in your life has happen for a purpose and has served as an agent in shaping and grooming you. God wants you to enter into all the things he has promised to you but he cant until you get certain relationships in your life in order. One importantly, is the relationship with your parents. Note: the verse in Ephesians does NOT say only honor them if there right or only if there not a deadbeat or only if they have been in your life they entire time. No, it says just to honor them, PERIOD. In everything and through everything. It even goes on to tell you how important this particular commandment is by saying its the first to be attached with a promise. And as I have been taught in accordance to listing and order in the bible, when something is listed first, it is in correlation to importance. So this must be a rather important commandment to be the FIRST to have a promise attached!
Many of us have been holding on to grudges, unforgiveness , and anger towards our parents. Maybe because of feelings of abandonment, ridicule, abuse or mistakes they may have made in our upbringing. I say to you if your parents are alive or dead its time to let those things go. Your only hindering yourselves. Its time to be freed from the negative feelings your holding toward your parents. This particular subject is something that I am all to familiar with. For years I had held onto ill feelings toward my biological mother. Whom I was not raised by, and from the time of a child at 8years old have not had a relationship with. There was much unforgiveness inside of me towards her. I didn't understand how a mother would not try to build a relationship with her child and just let years pass with nothing! Not a happy birthday, no I love you or in the least reach out to contact me. This burden I carried and suppressed for 18years, which had an effect on me emotionally when it came to feeling of acceptance. For years there was always a feeling of neglect, rejection and just the mindset and thought that I would never going to be good enough for anyone. And I carried that same lie and thought into other relationships and situations in my life ,which birthed into other avenues of depression and low self esteem. It was like a cancer and was a hindrance in my personal growth spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Im now 27 years old and im proud to say that this year because of God I have been able to be freed from the heavy unforgiveness, grudges and lies I was holding on to for so long. Now I am on a road to restoration between my mother and I, and you can do the same!!!
You may ask, how do I do that? Where do I even start? From personal experience you must first want to deal with the issues and not suppress them. Denial is not just a river in Egypt! Lol. Then you go to the Father and take all that baggage(your thoughts, feelings etc) with you and simply RELEASE them to him. Ask him to forgive you for holding on to those ill feelings, ask him to fill any void in you from those things. Then you must finally forgive them that hurt or offended you. But lastly, you MUST forgive yourself for believing the lies and feelings you held on to. Once you do that you will free yourself and open yourself up to instruction by the Holy Spirit on how to move forward from that point.
See you must remember that everything in your life works together for your good. (Romans8:28). Even the things that have hurt us or that we may not understand they are still working for our good! God desires for you to be free and walk into your promised land of opportunities and dreams beyond what you can imagine, but because he is not a man that he should lie, he requires you get some things in order first. The amazing part is you can start today...be blessed!
